For Jo, being labelled as the other woman immediately devalued her as his partner and - most devastatingly - devalued her allowance to grieve.
She said: 'Now I have nothing but memories and a few treasured photos of the man who was my life for five years.
Their relationship was effectively erased from his past.
I could have coped with being a mistress.
I will calm you down - take a moment, gather your thoughts, and start again.
There is a long list of wonderful tributes from previous subs.
Once again she left the room leaving me to ponder how many more.
After thirty strokes,she paused before the final six.